ONE OF THOSE DAYS

Today, is again, one of those days.

One of those days is set by these parameters.

1. Why are you alone?

2. Who is your boyfriend?

3. When are you getting married?

And my answers would always be

1. Why not?

2. None

3. No plans.     

I think people should stop asking these questions because I, myself is not even a bit interested. Let me enlighten you.

1. I am mostly alone especially when I go shopping and that’s when you see me often. I love going out to eat, observe people and buy unusual stuffs. Mind you, I have circles of friends but I am not that selfish to tire them from my OOTD hunts.

2. a. I don’t have a boyfriend because having one means an extra parent nagging you of where to go, what to wear and whom to be with. And I don’t yearn for that. My parents are enough.

b.  I enjoy my independence and freedom. I don’t need a man to help me carry my backpack, take a photo with that  #relationshipgoals, punch assholes or pushes the door when it says pull. I will get what I want with my own thinking and strategies.Hello! I’m turning 25. I can decide for myself and  glue myself together when I break.  And please, do not assume that people who are alone are the loneliest. We have individual differences, and I make a difference by saying that my company is enough to keep me happy.

c. Having a boyfriend means being attached to someone. It’s a give and take relationship. You have to make constant messages and calls, dates etc. I am not the clingy and pababe type. In fact,  I am a million contradictions but somehow,  CONSISTENCY counts a million YES’s for me. I want a guy who never fails to meet my expectations, understands my weirdness   and who still makes time for me despite his busy career;  however, throughout my life, I’ve never encountered that guy.

d. They say that I have to lower my standards. Why do I have to? Again, I am the one in-charge of my love affair and not you.

e. I have been in an official relationship (just once) yet it was something short-lived and surreal. Does that count? Nada. There you go folks, I have not fallen in love yet.

3. I will marry the man of my dreams, soon but this time, I just want to chase my dreams, support my family and save more than enough to finance my travels.

 So, next time, please do ask me sensible questions like.

1. Are you free? 

2. Do you want to go to the beach?

3. D you want to drink milk tea?

That will be much appreciated.